Watch this 5 minute video, full of good tips about fighting well with our partners. http://video.foxnews.com/v/4758580479001/how-fighting-well-can-strengthen-your-relationship/
Dr. Sue Johnson is a leader in the field of Emotionally Focussed Therapy. Have a look at what she has to say about attachment, atunement and love.
Here’s Sue Johnson on loving more intelligently. What I find compelling about her talk is this: loss of connection triggers feelings of threat–of being rejected or abandoned. And she says we have no control over these feelings because we are hard wired to need connection. We do, however, have control over what we do with those feelings, and how we communicate them to our loved ones. Watch and see what you think:
I appreciated this article by Emily Esfahani Smith in The Atlantic about the science of lasting relationships. Turns out, it’s all about kindness and generosity. This sounds like common sense. But maybe it’s something we need to cultivate too.